A friend and colleague walked away from my office the other day shouting “Hey, I miss your blog!” and I thought “Yeah, I miss my blog too.” I chose the name “Unfinished Business” to make this an open, pressure-free place. Of course, I then loaded expectations and self-imposed guidelines of what would be “enough” for a blog, and nothing kills creativity more than perfectionism and with a side of anxiety.
So let’s blow the dust off this thing!
Just over a year ago I shared my #30before30 list, broken into 6 categories with 5 items in each with the aim to do at least one item in each category. I did a wrap-up leading up to my birthday on instagram highlighting some of the adventures and milestones from the year. I have long-promised on IG stories a blog post on my #30before30 list, so here we go! I started this with the intent of doing the full list in one go, and then saw quickly how long that would be. This is part one of a likely three-part series.
To Do
- Clean out my closet Kon Mari style – completed November, 2018
I wasn’t sure if I was going to get to this item, but Aaron had us clear a weekend in mid-November and we hunkered down and went through our closet. He was my guide, as I failed/refused to read “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.” We sorted items that did or did not spark joy, I learned how to fold, and we donated lots and lots of stuff. I LOVE our closet now! New Years Day, I started watching the Marie Kondo Netflix show and am now a full convert, reading the book, and making plans to go through our full apartment this winter.
- Complete my 6 month living expense savings goal – completed November, 2018
Took a little longer than expected, but I met my savings goal of $10,000! This feels super good and is motivating me to keep moving on short and long-term specific savings goals for a new car, travel, and future home purchase (like, so far in the future).
- Successfully care for my aloe vera plant all year – completed December, 2018
As seen on IG, she lives!! I did almost over-water her and kill her this summer, but she prevailed!
- Read 5-10 professional development books related to leadership, org development, training, and intergroup dialogue – not completed
Shortly after making this list, I realized there were some items that were more in my to-do bucket than experience bucket. I let those items go early on, especially if they looked like shiny, aspirant perfectionist Amy. As someone who enjoys reading almost solely fiction, this item slipped off the radar.
- Write once a week – cards, blog, journal etc – not completed
See the above – not even a blog post all year! And I hate journaling. Why in 29 years of life I thought this would change, who knows??
To Make
- Start the seltzer review blog for giggles (current working title is Bitchin’ Bout Bubbles. All suggestions welcome!) – not completed
I waffled on this one, but ultimately decided that the magic in the seltzer reviews was in-part their delivery platform. I have a bunch of fun on Instagram stories, and feel like I can be genuine, spontaneous, and as silly as I want. A blog would take some of the spontaneity away, and remove the video element which I think is a prime part of the reviews.
- Start the Aaron & Amy cookbook – technically completed
We did START it. We wrote two recipes, and really Aaron wrote them, but we STARTED it. I did showcase a lot of cooking in Instagram and track all our meals in my Passion Planner, so we can look back to get this baby going this winter
- Start the Aaron & Amy scrapbook – not completed
See the section on writing – I do not enjoy scrapbooking (why would I think this would change??) Too many choices, too many chances to mess something up, not enough patience – it is my nightmare. We have lots of wonderful photos and memories, so I would love to find a way to store and showcase these.
- Cook a new recipe at least once a month (Aaron thinks we can do every week, we’ll see…) – completed December, 2018 WEEKLY
I think we cooked a new recipe nearly every week, except for maybe one week in August when Aaron was in training. Even then, there were many weeks we cooked 2-3 new recipes so it averages out! Way more plant-based meals and use of new cookbooks and online websites. We love trying new things, and regularly switch up things in the meal plan.
- Explore/create an online community for adult children of grey divorce – not completed
I am still in the season of grief and coping, and unsure what my needs are as a child of grey divorce. The needs often shift daily, so it’s hard to pinpoint something that would be sustainably helpful. I’ve searched and come up short on resources, guides, and online spaces from others who have shared this experience. I think this is mostly because everyone’s families are uniquely theirs, and while there are some common themes and experiences, there is no universal path, timeline, or guide that can direct how this is going to go. I continue to feel endlessly thankful to have my sister with me, parents who love both of us, and an incredibly supportive partner and group of friends.
Part two and likely part three will be forthcoming! Happy 2019 to all!